conversing with JP today about getting oneself into self-destructive situations/relationships of All sorts, and how much that Sucks.
he pointed out that regret is pointless. destruction (or self-destructive situations) are not necessarily futile and useless. take dada.
one definition of Dada or Dadaism [French, from dada, child's word for a horse]: Nihilistic movement in the arts that flourished chiefly in France, Switzerland, and Germany from about 1916 to about 1920 [and later -ed.] and that was based on the principles of deliberate irrationality, anarchy, and cynicism, and the rejection of laws of beauty and social organization.
in order to come up with a whole new definition of art (of oneself), one has to destroy everything left standing of the old art (self).
this bears more thought, but i like it.
it is definitely possible to reach breaking points where one Finally Finally stops making the same mistakes. one breaks once too often, heals, and then Actually moves on.